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Shawn's avatar

I don’t use the apps for multiple reasons (mostly don’t like anonymous-ish sex) but this definitely puts me off of them more. I’m sober from all substances and so even meeting guys in bars is not ideal.

I have to wonder… if you *need* substances to be aroused or to lose your sexual inhibitions… maybe quick hookups aren’t what you actually want? I mean getting drunk and high definitely got me hornier back in the day but it wasn’t a good quality horny. Honestly nothing turns me on more than at least some kind of emotional connection to a guy - doesn’t have to be “love” exactly but even just the comfort/safety/trust of being at least friends with the guy.

I know hookup culture will always be part of gay male culture but I really hope it’s starting to jump the shark. A lot of guys are in denial about how unhappy they are with it.

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Guya by Zayq's avatar

Really grateful for this Sam. Everyone learns in their own way and for some personal experiences or those of people close to us are all that will get through, while for others, some of these stats are super-powerful.

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